Monday, April 29, 2013

Didn't the prophet say the same thing last conference?


When I attended singles wards, after Priesthood sessions of conference, it was common for us to be asked by women what the prophet had said, or what had happened in conference.  Of course, they were rarely satisfied with answers such as “keep the commandments.”  The mature and responsible thing to do would have been to pay closer attention to the messages to give a better accounting, but in an effort to prolong conversations with women, I would respond that the church was planning to send proselyting missionaries to Iran, or that a Temple had been announced in Jerusalem, or some other completely false but faith-promoting rumor.

Ultimately, prophets and apostles really were persistently asking us to keep the commandments.  Whether that meant moral cleanliness, magnifying our callings, studying the scriptures regularly, or repenting of our sins, the overall message was always familiar and repetitive. 

In our last conference, (April 2013) we again heard the words of prophets and apostles.  There were no earth-shattering doctrines announced; while new temple locations were given, they did not include the Temple Mount in Jerusalem.  We do tend to hear similar information each time we listen to the prophet speak. 

Certainly the most obvious reason for repetition is that members of the church are not doing this well enough.  The repetition is frustrating to some people.  After all, isn’t the definition of insanity to do the same thing over and over again expecting different results? 

Of course one thing to note is that conference does not contain any Jedi mind tricks.  No prophet or apostle waves their hands and says “these aren’t the droids you’re looking for… oh and do your family history…”  The church leaders are not saying the same things each conference to control you… they are trying to persuade you… to plead with you to change yourself.  They expect you to find ways to heed the call to come unto Christ from your own unique circumstances and background, and provide tools to help you do it.

It is with a kind voice and with a gentle tone that President Monson said: “The knowledge which we seek, the answers for which we yearn, and the strength which we desire today to meet the challenges of a complex and changing world can be ours when we willingly obey the Lord’s commandments.”

Naturally, all of us have various challenges with this request.  Probably the majority of people that watch conference keep a large number of commandments, but they may struggle with a few, or even feel that a few are ‘unrealistic’.  Consider the Israelites as they approached the land of Canaan.  Moses sent twelve spies into the land.  Unfortunately, ten of them decided that they were not spies, but a feasibility committee.  Though they reported that the land flowed with milk and honey, they also reported that the people of the land made them feel like grasshoppers because of their size.

Keep in mind, the same God that had smitten Egypt with blood, frogs, lice, flies, the death of their cattle, boils, hail and fire, locusts, darkness, and the destroying angel, and delivered them from what was arguably the most powerful army in the ancient world by miraculously dividing the waters of the red sea, and then swallowing the chariots of Pharaoh, was the one that had sworn he would give the land to them.  Still, they were convinced that they could not possess Canaan because there were “big” people there.

Of course, it is easy for us to say that they were short-sighted.  The same short-sightedness may been seen in us though when a priesthood leader extends to us a calling or assignment.  For some people, they transform into their own “feasibility committee” and find numerous reasons why the same God that through his prophets has declared whom he calls he qualifies may not be thinking through the situation.  Certainly in some circumstances, leaders are able to follow the Spirit more accurately when they have all the information, but ultimately, we believe that a man must be called of God, by prophesy.  Those of us who have been baptized have sworn a covenant to keep the commandments.  Accepting, fulfilling, and magnifying callings are fundamental to this commitment.

Fulfilling assignments allows members to cooperate one with another in the great work of the Kingdom of God.  Even if there seems to be little value, little appreciation, and large amounts of work required, the prophets have never made a secret of the rewards that accompany obedience.  As President Monson said, “The knowledge which we seek, the answers for which we yearn, and the strength which we desire today to meet the challenges of a complex and changing world can be ours when we willingly obey the Lord’s commandments.”

Of course, it is not always a big, intimidating calling that represents the biggest challenge.  There are some people that go to great lengths to provide meaningful service, but are more easily beset by smaller obstacles.

Consider the story of Naaman, the Syrian captain.  He had been stricken with the terrible disease leprosy.  He became desperate to find healing.  One of his servants was acquainted with a Hebrew prophet named Elisha, and suggested that he might be able to help.  Naaman prepared a caravan with gold and silver and apparel to go and meet the man of God.  When he drew close to the land of Israel, instead of meeting the captain personally, he sent his servant Gehazi to meet him bearing only a few simple instructions: bathe seven times in the River Jordan.

At first, Naaman felt insulted.  He had not even been permitted to speak to the prophet directly, in spite of his journey and his prestige.  Furthermore, he preferred the fountains of his own country to the filthy water in the Jordan.  He went to leave for his home when one of his servants suggested that if the prophet had bid him do some great thing, he would have done it.  Why should he neglect this simple task?

Persuaded by the wisdom of his servant, he went to the River Jordan.  He dipped himself into it again and again as Elisha had instructed.  After the seventh time, when he arose from the water, he found that no trace of the disease remained with him.  He had been completely cleansed of the disease.  (2 Kings 5)

There are also examples demonstrating the consequences of ignoring the simple commandments.  We learn in the Book of Mormon that there were many Israelites that would not look at the brazen serpent that Moses had set up to be healed of their wounds because it was so simple, and that they perished for their neglect. (1 Nephi 17:41)

Certainly among the most basic tasks that are recommended by the prophet is daily scripture study.  Perhaps Harry Potter has more drama than 2nd Nephi.  Perhaps it seems unimportant that Arphaxad begat Salah who begat Eber who begat Peleg who begat Reu who begat Serug who begat Nahor who begat Terah.

I might compare these attempts to read the scriptures to Naaman dipping himself in the Jordan River the first six times.  Persistence will eventually lead to eye-opening experiences.  To this day, nothing is as bold or powerful as Elijah calling down fire from heaven on Mount Carmel and humiliating the priests of Baal.  The confidence of David shouting down Goliath, or Shadrach, Meshach, and Abed-Nego holding their ground in the face of Nebuchadnezzar and his fiery furnace gives me confidence.  The humility of Gideon who wanted to be certain that he was doing what the Lord wanted when he fought the Midianites persuades me to seek the will of God in my dealings.  I understand the feeling that Joseph Smith had when he was moved by James 1:5 as much as I understand why the people were astonished at the power of Jesus Christ himself after he delivered the Sermon on the Mount.

Perhaps the most remarkable use of scripture is that of Jesus Christ himself when he was tempted by Satan.  Though he was the God that had given the law and inspired the prophets, he answered every request of the devil with words from the Holy Scriptures.  He used them as a shield against evil.

It could be said that “The knowledge which we seek, the answers for which we yearn, and the strength which we desire today to meet the challenges of a complex and changing world can be ours when we willingly obey the Lord’s commandments.”

Seeing the importance of commandments large and small inevitably causes us to reflect on our pasts.  Only Christ lived every commandment without mistake.  Repentance is a principal as old as time.  Prophets have always been instructed to call people to repentance… and have even gotten into trouble when they have not.

Consider the experience of Jonah.  He was called by God to go to Nineveh and proclaim repentance.  Perhaps he thought that it was a dangerous task, but whatever his reason, he decided to run away.  He boarded a ship for Tarshish as if he could flee from the Lord.  Of course he could not.  God sent a terrible tempest that threatened the ship and its passengers.  Reluctantly, the others on board cast Jonah off the ship.  A great fish swallowed Jonah, and after three days, spit him out on the land again.  God again called Jonah to preach repentance to Nineveh, to which Jonah responded obediently.  He warned Nineveh that if they did not repent, they would be destroyed.  To Jonah’s surprise, they did repent, and they were spared.

God knew the value of the people of Nineveh even if Jonah did not immediately see it.  He has never sent his prophets to mince words regarding the importance of returning back to him.  Said Lehi to Jerusalem: repent or be destroyed.  Said Jeremiah to Jehoiakim, Jehoiachin, and Zedekiah: repent or be destroyed.  Said Isaiah in the reign of Manasseh: repent or be destroyed.  Said Moses to the children of Israel: repent or be destroyed.  Said Noah to the world: repent or be destroyed.  Warned the apostles to the fledgling church: repent or be destroyed.  Of course we know that when Christ returns, it will not be to have a big discussion.  Those that do not repent, will be destroyed.

In spite of our proximity in the fullness of times to the return of Jesus Christ and his victory over evil in the earth, he surprisingly does not send his prophets to warn “repent or be destroyed.”  I do not recall President Monson warning about how our enemies will invade… our old men will bury our young men… our mothers will bury their infants...  I recall no warning of plagues, famines, droughts, and disasters as consequences for sin or for failing to repent in time.

The perception that conference seems to be dull, repetitive, or redundant is largely shaped by context… but only the context of other conferences.  In the context of all time… it becomes clear that Jesus Christ is sending his prophets to say something new and different before he returns…  He sends them to say ‘please try a little harder’, ‘please be a little kinder’, ‘please be more forgiving’, and ‘please believe that God loves you.’  He sends them to say ‘please take advantage of Christ’s sacrifice.’

Essentially, Jesus Christ, the most High God that is coming in power and glory to reign and establish a paradise that has not been known since the days of Eden, is begging us to accept the very thing for which we should be begging him.

It is my hope that we will do as he asks… that we will be receptive to his pleadings… that we will magnify our callings… that we will diligently study our scriptures… that we will sincerely repent of our sins… that we will truly keep his commandments to take advantage of the promise of his living prophet:

“The knowledge which we seek, the answers for which we yearn, and the strength which we desire today to meet the challenges of a complex and changing world can be ours when we willingly obey the Lord’s commandments.”

 

Monday, April 15, 2013

Honestly, you don't want me to be honest...

As a parent, I try to encourage honesty in my children.  Voluntary confession of wrongdoing generally wins leniency in matters of discipline, whereas dishonesty or concealment results in the loss of more privileges.  Many parents implement similar policies to encourage honesty and communication with their children.

As much as parents may value honesty in their children, the standard is somewhat relaxed in other situations.

Many people are familiar with the scenario of a larger woman showing her outfit to her boyfriend and asking the question "does this make me look fat?"  Of course, what would the point of that question be since a "no" is expected whether it is honest or not.

On the other side of the coin, men seem comfortable increasing the length and weight of the fish that they caught on their last fishing trip, particularly when describing them to people they want to impress, or with whom they want to compete.

In societies where marriage is not arranged, both men and women become frustrated with one another over the dishonesty that seems inherent in the dating process.  I have spoken to women who express frustration when men promise to contact them for future romantic excursions when they have no intention of fulfilling such commitments.  I have personally experienced frustration when, while single, I worked up the nerve to ask a girl out, and was informed that while she "really wanted to" that she had scheduling conflicts due to "important" tasks such as "being busy."  I can empathize with those that are told after a couple of dates that the person in whom they have interest is "not ready for a relationship" only to see them engaged to someone else a short time later.

Ultimately, the motivation that causes otherwise honest individuals to lie is typically compassion.  The person wanting to avoid the date does not want to be or seem hurtful, so their fictitious schedule becomes quickly packed.  The boyfriend wants his girlfriend to feel appreciated, or at minimum to continue being his girlfriend in spite of a dress of incorrect size.  The man who caught a fish "as big as him" probably seeks respect from individuals for whom he feels respect.

The number of scenarios where "white lies" or "fibs" are better than the truth seems to increase all the time.  Please don't misunderstand, I am by no means advocating the cruel flavor of honesty that prevails due to the anonymity of the internet.  There, while people feel free to spout the filthiest and mot hurtful slurs, curses, or threats under the guise of "guest" on the forum or the mask of username "kingofhell1432" in a chat room, human decency is lost.  Increasingly, even without anonymity on sites such as Facebook or Twitter, people honestly express the most vulgar or hateful sentiments, and do not seem to worry about the feelings of others.

The truth is that honesty and compassion do not need to be enemies as much as we make them.  God finds value in all of his sons and daughters.  There is no person, however vile, disagreeable, or awkward they may seem, that Christ excluded from his infinite sacrifice. 

More to the point, does the boyfriend need to like every dress for him to express that the girlfriend is beautiful?  Does the man need to exaggerate the size of his catch to express that he values the respect of his peers?

That having been said, if honesty and compassion are at odds, the correct choice is honesty.  I certainly would have appreciated being told by girls that "would love to go out" but were "busy that day" actually meant "not interested in going out any day" if for no other reason than not to have to work up the nerve to call them again.  While it is not great to be undesirable, the feeling of having wasted a lot of time and effort needlessly combined with feeling undesirable is worse.

To say that God is similarly concerned with truth is an understatement.  Truth is so important to Christ that he assumes it as part of his identity: "I am the way, the truth, and the life..." (John 14:6)  Additionally, John states: "Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him, If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed; And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free." (John 8:31-32)

There were times when Jesus stood up for what was right and true.  He was perfectly honest when he exposed the money changers at the temple as making his Father's house a "den of thieves." (Matthew 21:13)  Jesus also knew when to avoid answering questions to maintain his honesty. (Matthew 21:23-27)

God's hope is that his children will come to value honesty as he does.  It is for this reason that he asks questions to which he already knows the answers.  Consider the example of Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden:
"And they heard the voice of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day: and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God amongst the trees of the garden.  And the Lord God called unto Adam, and said unto him, Where art thou? And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself. And he said, Who told thee that thou wast naked? Hast thou eaten of the tree, whereof I commanded thee that thou shouldest not eat? And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat. And the Lord God said unto the woman, What is this that thou hast done? And the woman said, The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat." (Genesis 3:8-13)

Of course, God already knew where Adam was, what he had done, and why he had done it... but he asked anyway.  Both Adam and Eve responded truthfully, and while the consequences of their actions have had lasting impact, God obviously valued their family, as he was willing to sacrifice his only begotten son to provide an opportunity to save them. (John 3:16)  He provided Adam and Eve opportunities to be honest in asking these questions.

A culture that values honesty is a culture that values the truth.  As a Christian, I believe the truth, ultimately, is not a cold and harsh thing.  The truth is that we are children of God, and that he loves us.  The truth is that the difficulties of mortality are temporary, and that adherence to principles of the Gospel bring lasting happiness.  Jesus Christ does want us to be honest, and he proved it is possible to be compassionate while doing it.  In the end, it is just as he said... "if ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed; And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free."